Catholic church dating before annulment
Perhaps we divorced Catholics are overly sensitive, but certain statements and inquiries are like rubbing salt into a very sore wound.
The bottom line is this: Such questions and comments just hurt, and they are unfair.Many of us, looking back, realize that God was simply not a part of our decision to marry. My intended was heading to a war zone for a year, and friends and family counseled me to wait. We have all attended enough weddings to recall what the priest or deacon always asks a couple at the beginning of the marriage ceremony: “Do you come here freely and without reservation?In my case, I never asked God, never gave God the chance to stop my headlong (and headstrong) determination to get married. ” For most of us divorced Catholics, the answer to that question, if we had been truthful, was “no.” How can anyone claim that a particular marriage was “joined by God” if that was not the intention of the parties getting married?I understood right from the beginning of my new life as a single person that, in order to be happy in a new relationship, I would have to be happy just being me and being single. At the same time, I was unaware of what makes a healthy marriage and very much in denial about our problems.My attitude now is, “If it happens, it happens.” In the meantime, please accept that I am fine as a single person. It means that I love you and I love the institution of marriage. My marital problems went a lot deeper than most, but every marriage needs constant care.